Frequently Asked Questions
Questions families often ask
📅 Before the Ceremony – Planning
When should I contact you?
As soon as you know you want a personal farewell ceremony. I prefer to take enough time to prepare everything together with care.
Can we contact you directly or does it have to go through the funeral home or crematorium?
You can always contact me directly. I work completely independently, separate from funeral homes or crematoria. Everyone is welcome.
Are you available on short notice?
If my schedule allows, absolutely. I’m flexible and do my best to be there when families need me.
Do we need to know exactly what we want for the ceremony?
No, not at all. We go over everything together, step by step. I help you make choices that feel right for you and your loved one.
✍️ Preparation
What is the intake conversation like?
We sit together – by phone, video, or in person – and take our time gathering memories, anecdotes, and your wishes. This conversation usually takes about 1.5 to 2 hours.
Can others join the conversation?
Absolutely. Anyone who wants to contribute is welcome. I can also speak with family members individually.
Can we suggest our own texts or music?
Of course. All ideas are welcome: texts, poems, music, rituals, photos... This is your farewell.
Can we decide the order of the ceremony together?
Yes. I suggest a basic structure, but it's always tailored to your wishes and the content that matters most to you.
🗣️ Speaking during the Ceremony
Can a family member read something during the ceremony?
Yes, gladly. I also help with writing those texts and can step in during the ceremony if it becomes too emotional.
What if I want to speak but find it difficult?
I’ll support you with writing, timing, and delivery. If you can’t finish reading during the ceremony, I’ll take over with respect and care.
Can you help write a personal speech?
Yes. I help structure your ideas and refine your words, while making sure it stays your voice and your story.
🔈 The Ceremony Itself
Will you be present on the day of the ceremony?
Yes, always. I arrive at least 1.5 to 2 hours beforehand to ensure everything runs smoothly, technically and emotionally.
What if something unexpected happens on the day?
I create calm and flexibility. Whether big or small, we solve issues discreetly and without stress for the family.
Can you coordinate the music or photo presentation?
Yes, in cooperation with the venue or crematorium. I can also prepare or create the presentation myself if needed.
Do you also lead ceremonies outside of a crematorium?
Yes. I also lead ceremonies at home, outdoors, in private venues or meaningful locations.
🌍 Language, Style, and Content
Do you offer services in French or bilingual ceremonies?
Yes. As a trained French teacher, I regularly lead ceremonies in French or in two languages.
Does the ceremony have to be religious?
Not at all. The content can be personal, symbolic, religious, or a combination — depending on what suits you best.
Can there be humor in a farewell ceremony?
Yes, when done respectfully and in the right context. Humor can be comforting and fitting if it reflects the personality of your loved one.
Do you use standard texts or write everything custom?
Everything is custom-written. No templates or clichés – just sincere, personal stories.
📦 Additional Elements
Can you create the photo slideshow?
Yes. I take care of the entire montage. I ensure all photos are scanned correctly, in high quality, and presented with soft transitions and suitable music.
Do you also provide memorial booklets?
These are often handled by the funeral director or printer, but I’m happy to assist with layout, structure, and proofreading.
What happens after the ceremony?
We conclude quietly. The family is given time to gather around the urn or casket. I remain available until everything is respectfully completed.
💬 Fees and Follow-Up
What does your service cost?
I discuss pricing clearly during the first contact. The cost depends on the content, time required, and location. Everything is tailored with clear agreements.
Can I still contact you afterward?
Absolutely. You may have more questions or thoughts after the ceremony — I’m always available.
What if you’re suddenly unavailable on the day itself?
I always have a backup plan: professional colleagues I trust, who can step in with the same care and quality.
🙏 Religious and Spiritual Elements
Can we include a sign of the cross during the ceremony?
Yes. If this is meaningful to your family or guests, we make room for it in a respectful way.
Can you bless or touch the urn or casket?
Yes. Upon request, I can bless the urn or casket, touch it symbolically, or lead a moment of silence – whatever suits your beliefs and wishes.
Can we include a prayer?
Yes. I can say a prayer, invite someone else to do so, or introduce a moment of silent prayer.
Are you affiliated with any religious denomination?
No. I work openly and respectfully with all beliefs – Catholic, Protestant, Muslim, Buddhist, or otherwise. All rituals are welcome.
Can we combine religious symbolism with personal content?
Certainly. Many families include a personal farewell with touches of faith — such as the Lord’s Prayer, candles, a cross, or a hymn. We can blend both elements beautifully.
Can you collaborate with a priest, pastor, or imam?
Yes. If you’d like a shared ceremony, I’m happy to work alongside a religious officiant. We’ll align the structure and content in advance.